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Trivia Night - Behind the Scenes!

The Villa di Maria Trivia Night is coming soon! VdM friends and family will gather on February 29 for rounds of very challenging rounds of trivia and a silent auction to benefit the Fund for Villa di Maria.In the spirit of leap year, the theme of the evening will be "One Extra Day"—parents, staff and friends will dress up their tables and themselves to represent their ideal extra day. It could be sleeping, reading, going to the beach... the options are endless. And while we can't wait to see everyone's ideal extra day unfold on February 29, we are just as excited to watch as preparations for the event get underway.Our incredible team of parent volunteers, along with Community Coordinator Samantha Clarke, has been gathering in the elementary building to hash out the details of the event. The Villa Volunteers have been working hard to find the venue, come up with the trivia questions and solicit donations for the silent auction. Some of their children are also in attendance, having their own meeting over pizza and juice.Some of our students are also working hard behind the scenes. With the help of another parent volunteer, sound designer, producer and videographer Tim Gebauer, they've put together a video of questions and answers for the "Are You Smarter than a Montessori Child?" round on Trivia Night.I won't tell you what the questions are, but I will say Trivia Night participants should brush up on their geography, geometry, algebra and botany.If you'd like to know more about what's in store for the participants of Trivia Night, follow our instagram! On Mondays and Wednesdays, we'll drop hints about the questions and silent auction items.

And for those who can't make it to the event, there are other ways to participate. You can make a contribution to the fund any time through this webpage, or bid on silent auction items starting in February (we'll let you know when that opens up on our social media platforms).

Thank you, thank you, thank you to our parent volunteers, staff and students for working so hard to create a super-fun event and to support Villa di Maria.

We are VdM: Upper Elementary Guide Katie Nelson

The very best part of Villa di Maria is our people. Our community of families, faculty and staff is something to be proud of. In this series, We are VdM, we’ll highlight the energies, talents, humor and wisdom of some of our amazing people. Today, we’ll feature Katie Nelson. Katie joined Ms. Rebecca as co-Guide in Upper Elementary at the start of this year. Katie is a St. Louis native and holds a Master's degree in secondary English education and an AMI diploma at the elementary level. She has served as a Guide at Campbell Montessori and City Garden. Katie brings kindness, playfulness and a happy energy to VdM. Welcome, Katie—we are thrilled to have you here!

Ms. Katie is nice and she understands her students; she gives us great lessons and describes them well. She is overall a great teacher; I am very glad to have her in the classroom.fourth-year Upper Elementary student (who very recently received a lesson on the semicolon)

Villa di Maria: How did you first find Montessori?Katie: After receiving my Master's in Education and having a disheartening student-teaching experience, my career took another path. While on that path, I met and worked with one of the sons of the head of school (also, uncle of Hank Yau), at Campbell Montessori. After one visit, I was hooked. I accepted the role of Assistant Guide at Campbell, and after my first school year there, began my Montessori training.VdM: What is your favorite thing to do on the weekend?Katie: I enjoy spontaneous lunches, dinners, walks, or shows with friends. A great concert always makes for a lovely weekend!VdM: What was your favorite book as a child, and why?Katie: Oh gosh, favorite book??? “Favorites” questions are always tough for me....As a child, I loved reading so very much, it is difficult to come up with a favorite! I was always excited for book fairs and frequently had my nose in a book. One that stands out, as a very young reader, is Andy Bear. Andy was a polar bear cub who was raised at the zoo. I recall being so drawn to the story and felt attached, in a sense, to the bear cub. And the pictures of the baby bear were sooooooo adorable! That book stands out the most.VdM: When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?Katie: Gosh, as a child, and even as an adult, I think I’ve desired to be everything under the sun, at one point or another, from architect to NICU nurse to teacher! Wanting to be a teacher has been a constant, however, while other professional desires were more fleeting. My mother once told me, when I was in my 20s and going back to school once again, that she figured I’d be a student for life, because of my absolute love of and for learning. Teaching allows me that pleasure, and I think that’s what childhood me envisioned most consistently.VdM: What is your favorite quote/moment so far from/with one of your students?Katie: I was gathering three sixth-year gals for a lesson. One of them clearly did not seem pleased to be called for a lesson at that time, and begrudgingly joined us. I presented fraction division with the materials, and by the end of the lesson, the gals were all three giddily expressing how much fun the work was! They went so far as to abstract a difficult division problem without the material. I loved sharing that experience with them. There have been countless memorable quotes, phrases, and moments; I could go on and on!Katie brings kindness, playfulness and a happy energy to VdM. Welcome, Katie—we are thrilled to have you here!

The Importance of Getting to School on Time (and Resources to Help Make it Happen)

Everyone is tardy sometimes. The occasional unexpected rough morning, spilled smoothie, flat tire or forgotten lunch box—these will happen to each of us. It's when those mornings go from occasional and unexpected to frequent and routine that tardiness becomes... well, a problem.It's easy to list the reasons punctuality is essential to the work- or school-day in general, but let's talk about why it is especially important in the Montessori classrooms.

The Environment

photo credit: Melinda SmithAt the end of each school day, our students, guides and assistants reset the classroom environments, cleaning and restoring for the next day. In the mornings, the environments welcome the children with calm and the sense of everything-in-its-place. For the youngest children, this feeds an inherent sense of order and puts them at ease. For all children, the organization of the space reduces stress and anxiety and facilitates motivation to work. Dozens of studies show the positive impacts of an orderly environment on people of all ages... but why am I bringing it up here? Because children can only reap the calming, motivating benefits of an orderly environment when they arrive in their classrooms on time. When they are on time, they enter the room in its renewed state, before the day has begun. They have the chance to take it all in and prepare for the day. They are set up for success.

The Community

Another benefit of arriving on time is the chance the children have to connect with the adults and other children in their environment. During the window of time dedicated to arrival, each child is met at the door by the guide with a handshake and a warm greeting. They have the chance to personally connect with an anecdote or silly joke. As they chat with the guide and with the other children arriving, they begin their day with the renewed sense of community.

The Three-Hour Work Cycle

One of the beautiful things that Montessori offers to children is a three-hour uninterrupted morning work cycle. In both the Children's House and the Elementary, the children have from the start of the work day, 8:30 a.m. to the start of lunch, 11:30 a.m. to explore their lessons, dive into their work without unscheduled interruptions. This affords them the opportunities to concentrate, to self-direct and to discover the depths of their own curiosity and intelligence. The three-hour work cycle is bedrock to their Montessori education. And when they arrive on time, they are able to take full advantage of it.So now that we've looked at all of the beautiful things that happen at the start of the work-day, and why they are so very important to the Montessori classroom, let's drive it on home...

The Dinner Party Analogy

You've likely heard this one if you've attended our orientation evenings, and some version of it is often used by Montessorians to describe the effect of coming in late to the classroom. It goes like this: imagine you've just shown up late to a dinner party. All your friends are seated and eating and in the middle of a good conversation. You still have to put your coat away before you can truly join the party. You're out of sync with your friends, out of sync with the party. It doesn't feel good.That feeling is what children experience when they arrive late to their classroom. They've missed out on the start of the day. That morning calm and order of the environment is not wholly available to them because other children have rolled out the rugs and taken the work off the shelves. The opportunity to start the day with a personal connection with the guide is gone because she is now giving lessons to other children. And the three-hour work cycle has begun; some of the time promised to the child in the Montessori classroom is now lost.

Solutions

In truth, this will be different for everyone. Each family has its own rhythm, its own strengths and weaknesses. But it is vital that the child's timely arrival in the classroom become a priority so that she has the opportunity to fully enjoy and succeed in the school day. Below is a list of fantastic resources to help make timely arrival a reality:

Community in the Children's House

One of the greatest joys of working at Villa di Maria is watching our children grow. It's not just that they get taller, know more words and lose their first teeth (although all of that is pretty great); it's watching them develop, learn and expand as people. They are becoming who they are right before our eyes.Part of who they are is a person in a community. That's true of each of us—as humans, we are inherently social animals, and our communities are parts of our identities. And for the children at Villa di Maria, their community is the Children's House.During their three or more years in the Children's House, children are free and encouraged to try on many different roles as they practice and expand their social skills.They have the opportunity to serve their communities with classroom contributions and community jobs.They sit down together for snack, lunch and sometimes holiday celebrations!They work together and learn from each other.They play together and form new friendships.And sometimes help a new friend tie her shoe.Whatever they're doing during their time in the Villa di Maria Children's House, they are doing it together. Learning and playing together, supporting and helping each other. With each other, these children are growing into their kind, compassionate and courteous selves. It is a lovely thing to witness, and we are grateful and honored to be a part of it.

We are VdM: Sarah Moscicke

The very best part of Villa di Maria is our people. Our community of families, faculty and staff is something to be proud of. In this series, We are VdM, we’ll highlight the energies, talents, humor and wisdom of some of our amazing people. Today, we’ll meet Sarah Moscicke, guide in the Lower Elementary Racks & Tubes classroom. Sarah joined Villa di Maria at the beginning of this school year, having returned to her hometown of St. Louis after serving as an elementary guide for three years in Milwaukee. She holds a BA in communication and theater from Wheaton College, an AMI diploma at the elementary level and a MA in education from Loyola University Maryland. Sarah brings her background in theater and music to her dramatic storytelling and inspiring lessons in the classroom. She enjoys discovering each child's unique gifts and assisting them toward the development of their full potential.

Ms. Sarah is nice and she gives good lessons and challenging work (which I like!) I like it how she lets us have multiple turns doing a work, like each person gets a turn at the experiment.Third-year Racks & Tubes Lower Elementary student

Villa di Maria: How did you first find Montessori?Sarah: I never thought I wanted to be a teacher, until I discovered the Montessori approach. I stumbled upon Montessori because I needed a job and loved working with children. I worked for a year as an assistant in an elementary community and fell in love with the method. I took the elementary training the next year and have been teaching ever since.VdM: What is your favorite thing to do on the weekend?Sarah: Sleep in, drink coffee in bed, and hang out with my husband and baby.VdM: What was your favorite book when you were a child... and why?Sarah: When I was a kid, I loved reading mystery series, like Nancy Drew or The Three Investigators, even though they would keep me up at night with fear.VdM: What did you want to be when you grew up?Sarah: One of the things I wanted to be when I grew up was a ballerina. I was infatuated with The Nutcracker and would put on my own performance in my living room.VdM: What is your favorite quote/moment so far from/with one of your students?Sarah: "I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but you look like Ms. Bro," from a first year in my classroom.
 Sarah brings calm, poise and warmth to Villa di Maria. Welcome, Sarah—we are so happy you’re here!Photo credit: Melinda Smith

In Remembrance of Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Today we honor the life and legacy of Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., a Baptist minister and civil rights activist. With peaceful and nonviolent acts of civil disobedience, Dr. King exposed racism and unfair treatment of African Americans throughout the United States and fought for racial and economic equality. He inspired and led the Civil Rights Movement from 1955 until the day he was shot and killed in Memphis, TN—April 4, 1968.On the evening of April 4, Dr. King stepped out of his motel room and onto the balcony of the Lorraine Motel and was shot and killed by a sniper. He was 39 years old.

We’ve got some difficult days ahead. But it really doesn’t matter with me now, because I’ve been to the mountaintop … And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over, and I’ve seen the Promised Land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight that we, as a people, will get to the promised land.Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dr. King was in Memphis to support the sanitation worker's strike. His final sermon was given the night before, on April 3, 1968 at Mason Temple in Memphis, TN. Below is a video of this sermon.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e49VEpWg61MThank you, Dr. King. Rest in peace.

The UE Book Club - Learning and Social Difficulties

 [gallery columns="4" size="full" ids="6884,6885,6886,6887"]For January, Upper Elementary students are reading books with first person narratives from the perspectives of children with learning and social difficulties for the UE Book Club. The books address issues of disability, accessibility, alienation and inclusion. Colleen Deibel, UE Special Assistant describes common themes in this month's selections as "embracing our differences, recognizing our strengths and having compassion for each other." The students chose from the list of novels below, each of them a great option for exploring empathy and redefining "normal." For more books the address these issues, check out the list at the end of this post.A Mango-Shaped Space by Wendy Mass is a coming-of-age novel about 13-year-old Mia, a girl with synesthesia, an intermingling of the senses. Mia sees numbers, letters and sounds as colors and she's been keeping it a secret since she was teased about it in third grade. When her condition causes her to struggle in middle school, she tells her parents and they take her to a specialist. With a  proper diagnosis, Mia is able to research synesthesia and connect with other people who have it. As she learns more about her condition, her life also begins to unfold in other ways. She loses her grandfather, is betrayed by her best friend, finds a new, unexpected friend in a classmate and her beloved cat, Mango, dies. In the end, Mia learns to turn to the people who support her and to accept herself.In Rain Reign by Ann M. Martin, we meet Rose, an 11-year-old girl with Asperger's Syndrome who finds comfort in homonyms and prime numbers. Rose lives with her father, who has little patience for her, and her dog, Rain (Reign). With the exception of Rain and sometimes her uncle, no one at school or home seems to understand Rose, or even to want to understand her. She finds comfort in Rain, who provides much-needed routine, as well as unconditional love. When Rain is lost in a hurricane and ultimately rescued by an animal shelter, Rose's life takes a turn. Her choices and the choices of her uncle and father change her life forever and, ultimately, lead to a fresh start for Rose.Fish in a Tree by Lynda Mullaly Hunt tells the story of sixth-grader Ally, who is artistically and mathematically talented and who struggles with reading and writing. She has trouble in school, struggles socially and avoids reading and writing at all costs. While Ally's family loves her, they often have to relocate and are not equipped to support her learning difficulties. When Ally lands in a school with a teacher who senses she might have dyslexia, Ally's life changes. She thrives with her teacher's confidence in her, finds friends who face their own social challenges, learns to believe in herself and even inspires her older brother to face his own struggles with reading.Mason Buttle is a kind, sincere and optimistic 12-year-old boy who is also bullied for being unusually large with a sweat-gland disorder, who has dyslexia and who has lost many of the most important people in his life, including his best friend, Benny, whose body was found in Mason's family's orchard. Mason grieves for his friend while also being suspected of having something to do with his death. Mason and his new friend Calvin are relentlessly, cruelly bullied but they stick together. Then, Calvin goes missing. Mason is again a suspect but, armed with honesty, he works to solve the mystery of Calvin's disappearance and Benny's death. The Truth as Told by Mason Buttle is, in the end, a story about the triumph of loyalty, sincerity and kindness.

More book recommendations:

A Boy Named Bat by Elana K. ArnoldClose to Famous by Joan BauerEl Deafo by Cece BellRules by Cynthia Lord13 Books Featuring Characters with Learning DisabilitiesBooks with Characters Who Have Learning and Attention Issues   

We are VdM: The Sennes

The very best part of Villa di Maria is our people. Our community of families, faculty and staff is something to be proud of. In this series, We are VdM, we’ll highlight the energies, talents, humor and wisdom of some of our amazing people. Today we’ll feature the Sennes: Jessica, Aaron, Arlo and Lydia, who joined the VdM community in 2018. 

Villa di Maria: Tell us a bit about you and your family.

Jessica Senne: Aaron is originally from Kansas City and I am originally from Springfield, Missouri, though we’ve been in St. Louis for over 15 years and both of our children have lived here their entire lives. Aaron and I met in interior design school at Mizzou and then moved to St. Louis to pursue graduate degrees in architecture at Washington University. We’ve lived here ever since and now reside in a mid-century modern neighborhood in Kirkwood. We really love our neighborhood and the Kirkwood area, and I suppose we’ve lived here long enough to now say we are from St. Louis! However, as everybody knows, if you didn’t go to high school in St. Louis, it’s hard to say you’re from St. Louis :).

Both of our kids went through preschool (age 5) at another Montessori school, which is how we were originally introduced to Montessori. As practicing designers, we feel Montessori really aligns with our experiences in studio-based education, which we feel from first-hand experience is the most effective way to learn.  After our son, Arlo, completed kindergarten and first grade at one of the public elementary schools in Kirkwood, we had a strong feeling that Montessori was the better fit for him. We felt he really thrived at his Montessori preschool and we felt he’d lost his fire for learning, so to speak, with his two years in a “traditional” classroom setting. Halfway through his first grade year we started looking for other options, and were delighted to find the area’s best Montessori elementary school practically in our back yard! It didn’t hurt that Aaron was part of the design team that designed the initial campus expansion schemes for Villa, so he was already a little familiar with the campus.  
 
This is now Arlo’s second year with Villa (he is a third-year student in Checkerboard), and his younger sister, Lydia, is in her culminating year in P3. We have all absolutely loved our experiences with Villa. Arlo is able to pursue his deep interest in history and geography with his self-guided projects in Checkerboard, and Lydia enjoys dabbling in a little bit of everything in P3.
 
VdM: What do you and your spouse do, career-wise?
 

Jessica: We are both licensed architects and own our own firm in Kirkwood, Studio Lark.  I am also an interior designer and spent many years teaching design to students of all ages, ranging from elementary school to university level. We welcome visitors to our studio in Kirkwood! We build lots of models, make lots of drawings, and have a library of interesting materials. We would love for Villa families to stop by if they have kids who are interested in architecture and design, or simply want to see our space!

VdM: What is your favorite activity to do as a family?

Jessica: We love to do all sorts of things as a family! During the weeks we like to take morning walks with our dog, Pearl. In the evenings we enjoy cooking and eating dinners together and watching movies or playing video games as a family after dinner. We also love to read and do puzzles together in the evenings. On the weekends you’ll find us taking long hikes and making pancakes (Aaron’s specialty!). And Santa brought us all new creative supplies for Christmas, so we’ve been drawing and painting a lot together lately. Oh, and Aaron, Arlo, Lydia and Pearl all love to go camping, and they drag me along semi-willingly. We also love going to the beach and try to get down to the 30A area in Florida once a year! 

 

VdM - A question specifically for Arlo & Lydia: If you wrote a book, what would it be about?

Arlo: The Big Book of Ancient Civilizations

Lydia: The Big Book of Alligators

Thank you, Jessica, Aaron, Arlo and Lydia. We are so glad to have you in the VdM community (and we can't wait to read those books!)

Family photos provided by the Sennes.

 

Parent Talks at VdM

Several times during each school year, our Guides meet with parents for in-depth discussions of Montessori curriculum. These Parent Talks are great opportunities for our parents to come together and learn more about the work their children are doing at VdM every day. The events are often enriched with group work or hands-on experience with materials, and parents are free to ask questions and discuss their experiences. Each talk is focused on one aspect of the Montessori curriculum as it applies to a specific age or plane of development, and designed to demystify Montessori principles and give parents ideas for supporting and/or implementing those principles at home.The last round of Parent Talks happened just last Thursday evening. Read on for a peek into the evening and be sure to check out the resources and suggested reading at the bottom of this post for more information about the topics discussed at the Parent Talks.Parents of our youngest children (ages 2.5 and three) met with Guide Jessie Braud in the P2 Children's House for "Writing into Reading," a discussion of why writing comes before reading in the Montessori classroom, including an exploration of the early sensorial and language lessons that prepare children to learn to write and then read. The group also discussed language acquisition in children and how parents can best support the natural ways children learn.

Parents of children in their second year in the Children's House (ages 4 to 5) were invited to Guide Reghan McAuley's Parent Talk, "All Things Math!" Reghan discussed the progression of work with the math materials in the Children's House as children begin with a foundation of base numbers and grow into work with decimals and linear counting. Reghan presented a variety of math lessons, including every child's favorite, the Bank Game.

Children's House Guide Heather Steinman and Elementary Guide Megan Eilers joined forces for their talk, "Bridging into Elementary," for parents of children in their culminating year of the Children's House. They talked about what to expect as the child moves from primary into elementary and how Montessori curriculum is uniquely designed to support this transition. Heather and Megan presented several materials, such as the binomial cube, that cross over between the primary and elementary environments and how the lessons around these materials change to introduce new and expanded concepts.

The purpose of this talk is to help parents understand the similarities and differences between the primary and elementary years (or the first and second planes of development). We talk a lot about the different characteristics of the children during these stages and how the two environments are designed to support their needs. An overall theme that tends to emerge is that [Montessori offers] just the most amazing continuum for the children!Heather Steinman

Parents of elementary students were invited to discuss art, history and language in the Montessori elementary curriculum. Guides Sarah Moscicke and Rebecca Callander discussed how the elementary environment is designed to encourage exploration in these subjects and how they are interwoven for a broad and rounded education—a cosmic education. Parents also worked hands-on with clay, crafting pinch pots, while discussing specific topics such as spelling and how history is taught in the classroom.

We are so appreciative of our guides and our parents, who make these events and our community so strong. The next round of Parent Talks will be held on Thursday, March 26.

Resources and suggested reading:

Writing into Reading:

All Things Math!

Bridging Into Elementary

Elementary Curriculum

We Are VdM: The Thralls

The very best part of Villa di Maria is our people. Our community of families, faculty and staff is something to be proud of. In this series, We are VdM, we’ll highlight the energies, talents, humor and wisdom of some of our amazing people. Today we’ll feature the Thralls: Danielle, Bryan, Maggie and Elizabeth who joined the VdM community in 2015. You have likely seen or talked to Danielle and Bryan as they have attended (and/or volunteered at) nearly all of our community events over the years. Maggie is now a third-year student in Ms. Megan's Checkerboard classroom and Elizabeth is a first-year in Ms. Sarah's Racks & Tubes classroom.

Villa di Maria: Tell us a bit about you and your family.  

Danielle Thrall: My name is Danielle. I am from St. Louis originally. I went to Lutheran South for high school (typical STL question) and Fontbonne University and received my degree in Early childhood education. Bryan and I met on a dating website 13 years ago. We went on our first date that lasted 5 hours and knew from that point on we would be together! Our family lives in Affton with our cat Sophie and fish Snowball.

Both Maggie and Elizabeth have taken swim classes since they were babies and are currently enrolled in gymnastics. Both girls love the family traditions we create such as doing what we are thankful for every night at dinner, putting up our holiday decorations together, having a cookie baking night, and this year we added a new tradition of placing wreaths at Jefferson Barracks Cemetery. Family is extremely important to us and we love to spending time together no matter what we are doing. 

VdM: What do you and your spouse do, career-wise?

Danielle: My first job was working at Truman Elementary in the Lindbergh district; it was there that my passion for Special Education began. I decided to become a paraprofessional and went back to school to get my Masters in Special Education. Currently I work at Crestwood Elementary as a K-5 Cross Categorical teacher. I work with students on the Autism spectrum, students with intellectual disabilities, students who have Cerebral Palsy, students with emotional disturbance, and those that utilize communication devices. Though my job is trying, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE my students and what they have taught me through the last 10 years. 

My husband Bryan is from Roseburg, Oregon, where his family still resides. He came to St. Louis to attend Washington University where he received his bachelors and masters degree in Computer Science. He currently works at World Wide Technology developing software.  

VdM: How did you find Montessori and what brought you to VdM?

Danielle: My college courses at Fontbonne introduced me to Montessori, and we wanted our children to have the hands-on learning and important life skills that Montessori teaches. We came to VdM because I happened to be driving by the school and researched it online, took a tour and felt right at home.

VdM: What has been your favorite family vacation?

Danielle: We can’t decide on just one. We had an amazing vacation at Disney World and Vero Beach, Florida with my extended family and Bryan’s mom a couple years ago (19 people in total, to be exact). It was Maggie and Elizabeth’s first time to Disney and the ocean. We also spent a great week in Tucson, Arizona with Bryan’s mom, sister and her family when Maggie was about 2.5 and Elizabeth was 3 months old. We were able to go to the desert museum and swim in the pool.

VdM: A question specifically for Maggie & Elizabeth: If you joined the circus, what would your circus act be and why?

Maggie: I would walk the tightrope because it would be fun.

Elizabeth: I would be an elephant rider because it would be fun.

Thank you, Danielle, Bryan, Maggie and Elizabeth. We are grateful to have you in the VdM community!

Family photos provided by the Thralls.

 

Better Habits in 2020: Sleep!

It's a new year and a new opportunity to check in with our family routines, to assess what is working and what might need a little work. In this series, Better Habits in 2020, we'll take a look at the kinds of things we can do to improve our and our children's lives. Today we'll start with what I personally believe is the mother of all good habits: sleep!Put simply, our brains and bodies just cannot do all they are supposed to do without adequate sleep—we depend on good, quality sleep for growth, memory, appetite regulation, physical fitness, heart health, emotional regulation, mental health, alert awareness, good performance at work or school, a working immune system and the ability to learn.While we might think of sleep as a time when everything shuts down, the truth is our bodies and brains, freed from the daily tasks of being awake, turn inward and get to work. Our physiological functions, like breathing, body temperature and heart rate, rest and slow down, conserving energy while the body generates and regenerates cells, heals damage and recovers from stress. And the brain works on organizing all of the data that came at it during the day. We lock in new information; consolidate and categorize that information with what we already know; build memories; carve out neural pathways for movement and speech; regulate emotions... the list goes on and on.This big work is happening in all of us, at every age, but in children this work is even bigger. They are physically growing and learning new things all the time. And the younger they are, the more growing and learning they are doing. From 0 to 6, children are absorbing, taking in everything—every single thing—around them, while also learning to walk, talk, eat, read and write. The right amount of sleep is absolutely essential for our children to be able to get this information settled into their brains and bodies. It is essential for them to be able to function happily and healthily.So what is the right amount of sleep? It's a lot more than many of us think. The American Academy of Pediatrics' recommendations for hours of sleep, by age group, are:

  • Infants 4 months to 12 months should sleep 12 to 16 hours per 24 hours (including naps).
  • Children 1 to 2 years of age should sleep 11 to 14 hours per 24 hours (including naps).
  • Children 3 to 5 years of age should sleep 10 to 13 hours per 24 hours (including naps).
  • Children 6 to 12 years of age should sleep 9 to 12 hours per 24 hours.
  • Teenagers 13 to 18 years of age should sleep 8 to 10 hours per 24 hours.

 The immediate effects of a lack of sleep are familiar to any of us: irritability, fatigue, foggy thinking and just a general feeling of blech—things that might be helped with a nap. But the long term effects of a deficiency of sleep can be much more severe, including trouble focusing and concentrating, reduced immune system function, extreme stress, slower reflexes, impulsivity, anger and depression. So how do we do better? How do we help our children get the sleep they need?Jessie Braud, Guide in our P2 Children's House, explains, "Routine, routine, routine! It cannot be overstated." Indeed, routine is consistently touted by the experts as essential to creating the habit of good sleep. Nighttime routines can involve baths, stories, soothing music, sing-alongs, a walk around the block, whatever works for your family.Jessie adds, "Your child can contribute greatly to crafting an ideal bedtime routine for your family, so don't be afraid to let them help plan! Children need far more sleep than we do to be truly healthy. It can be hard, especially when parents are working late and wanting to spend time with their children. Winding down after dinnertime is important. Tone down the noise, tone down the lights in the house and allow your child the space and time to actually get sleepy. Incorporate family time into the process; memories created over bath time and bedtime stories last for years."

Tone down the noise, tone down the lights in the house and allow your child the space and time to actually get sleepy. Incorporate family time into the process; memories created over bath time and bedtime stories last for years.Jessie Braud

For more ideas about how to cultivate good sleep habits for yourself and your family, here's a list of sources for this post and other suggested reading:

 

Parent-Child Course

It has been two and a half years since Guide Cab Yau first introduced her Parent-Child Course in the Villa di Maria fireplace room, and we are happy to report the next session is starting next week! Parents and caregivers around St. Louis bring their very young children (eight weeks to two years old) to Cab's course once or twice per week during the morning hours. The course offers a nurturing environment prepared especially to support their early development in movement and language.As their children explore, parents and caregivers freely discuss their questions or concerns with Cab and each other. They learn how to foster independence in their children and how to model behaviors and language and how to implement Montessori principles in the home. And they have an opportunity to connect with a community of other parents and caregivers.

Yes, the environment is set up for the children, but it's also set up for the adults in their lives. Adults are given the chance to observe, reflect, ask questions and fundamentally enter into more conscientious parenting. Parenting is no small feat, and it is best done in community.Cab Yau

If you would like to join this session of our Parent-Child Class, please visit this website to complete an application. We hope to see you there!

113 Years Ago Today

Welcome back from a long and rejuvenating Winter Break! Today we are back at school, ready to kick off 2020 with curiosity, imagination, hard work and a true love of learning. Today is an extra special first day back because it also the anniversary of the opening of Dr. Maria Montessori's Casa dei Bambini (Children's House) in the San Lorenzo neighborhood of Rome on January 6, 1907.

Casa dei Bambini was the culmination of a decade of Dr. Montessori's work in educational reform, as well as the beginning of what would become known as the Montessori School.

At the turn of the 20th century, Dr. Montessori was a pioneer of women in the medical field, a respected scientist, educator and advocate for children. Through her work in a children's hospital, researching developmental and cognitive disabilities, Dr. Montessori observed what she believed to be an intrinsic intelligence and drive to learn in the children—an intelligence and drive to learn that were not being nurtured.

As a member of what was then called the National League for the Protection of Retarded Children, she spoke publicly about the need for education and support, rather than hospitalization, for children with cognitive disabilities. She and her colleagues led a wave of education reform in Italy, as they began to develop ways to meet the needs of children who were otherwise neglected or seen as unteachable.

Dr. Montessori pursued further studies in anthropology, psychology and philosophy as she worked to develop what she called her "scientific pedagogy," a method of teaching, borne of her observations, research and first-hand work with children, that she believed would apply to all children.

Soon she was invited to San Lorenzo, an impoverished, industrial neighborhood of Rome, to supervise the children who were left alone during the days as their parents worked in nearby factories. There were between 50 and 70 children, ages 3 to 7, and Dr. Montessori created for them, Casa dei Bambini.

Dr. Montessori provided the children in Casa dei Bambini practical activities that allowed them to care for themselves and their environment. She furnished the classroom with lessons she had designed and allowed the children to direct themselves, to follow their own interests. The children in Casa dei Bambini absorbed the order and language in their surroundings, began to concentrate, to learn from each other and to work independently. They were succeeding in their school.

It is not true that I invented what is called the Montessori Method... I have studied the child; I have taken what the child has given me and expressed it, and that is what is called the Montessori Method.Maria Montessori

Dr. Montessori continued to hone her methods in Casa dei Bambini over the next few years and more schools opened throughout Italy and Switzerland. News of these innovative schools spread quickly, and Dr. Montessori was invited to lecture in Europe, the UK, and eventually the United States on her pedagogy. She held training courses for educators and authored several books, and over the next four decades Montessori schools opened throughout much of the world.

Which brings us to today, 113 years after the first Casa dei Bambini opened its doors. It is estimated that there are 20,000 Montessori schools throughout the world today—school's based on the observations, hard work and principles of Dr. Maria Montessori. Villa di Maria is proud and honored to be one of them. Happy anniversary, Casa dei Bambini.

Sources and suggested reading

The Montessori Method by Maria Montessori

The 1946 London Lectures by Maria Montessori

The First Casa dei Bambini

First Montessori school opens in Rome

namta.org

ami.org

 

 

Giving Fewer Gifts (and More Experiences)

Gifts are a natural part of the winter holidays, and with good reason—a thoughtful gift is a lovely way to show appreciation and affection for someone you love. In fact, research shows that the process of giving or receiving thoughtful and intentional gifts decreases stress and boosts serotonin; giving makes us feel good.

But too much of any good thing can be... well, not such a good thing. Too many gifts can easily turn into an overwhelming experience burdened with waste and clutter.

One way to ease this burden is to choose experiences, rather than things, as gifts. Memberships, subscriptions, events... these all make wonderful gifts. Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Cooking classes for adults, children or families.
  • Memberships to museums, aquariums, zoos or science centers.
  • Parent-child art or pottery classes.
  • Road trips, complete with audio books.
  • Tickets to an amusement park.
  • Tickets to a concert.
  • A kid-in-charge day.

And then there are the best kinds of experiences, the ones we create throughout the holiday season. Gifts are nice, but it's how we spend our time during the holidays that really matters.

Whether it's frying latkes, stringing popcorn and hanging ornaments, heading to the ice rink, creating a family tree, or watching the same holiday movie each year, building traditions (and starting new ones!) is the best way to connect with friends and family and make long-lasting memories.

Happy Holidays from Villa di Maria!

The Winter Holidays in St. Louis - Things to See & Do

Photo credit: Melinda Smith

We are on our second-in-a-row snow day at VdM, so it's time to start planning some winter family activities. Some of St. Louis' best destinations get gussied up with lights and sparkle this time of year, ready for festive celebrations! Read on for ideas for your family in the coming weeks.

Outdoor Fun

Take the family sledding at Art Hill in Forest Park, Crestwood Park in Crestwood or any of these awesome sledding hills in and around St. Louis. You can do this for free and for as long as there's snow on the ground.

Art Hill in Forest Park
Image courtesy of Riverfront Times

Ice skaters can head downtown to Winterfest Ice Rink in Kiener Plaza. On Kid/Family Sundays, you'll be joined by characters like Snow White and Elsa. Winterfest Ice Rink also has a great new year's eve celebration. Lace up your skates now through January 26.

Winterfest Ice Rink in Downtown St. Louis

For more outdoor ice skating, check out Steinberg Skating Rink in Forest Park through March 1.

Union Station and the Aquarium Grand Opening

Union Station opened as a train station 125 years ago and has reinvented itself many times since. This year Union Station completes an extensive renovation including the brand new St. Louis Aquarium. The Aquarium opens December 25 and is sure to be a fantastic experience!

St. Louis Aquarium in Union Station - Opens December 25

The new Union Station also offers a glimpse into St. Louis history in the Grand Hall, a giant Ferris wheel, a carousel, a ropes course, mini golf, several delicious restaurants and, during the holiday season, The Polar Express Train Ride. Purchase tickets to experience the magic of the classic children's book through December 30.

Lights!

Colorful and bright, elegant and tasteful and (ahem) flashy and full of character—there's no shortage of holiday light displays in this town.

Drive, walk or take a carriage ride through Winter Wonderland in Ladue's Tilles Park, an extravagant light display put on by St. Louis County Parks. Purchase tickets now through January 2.

Winter Wonderland at Tilles Park in Ladue

In St. Louis Hills, drive or walk through Candy Cane Lane—a neighborhood transformed by its residents into a fun, kitchy and beautiful winter wonderland. To round out the tradition stop at Ted Drewes on Chippewa first. The entrance to Candy Cane Lane is right behind it. No tickets are required, and the lights are up through December 31.

Candy Cane Lane in St. Louis Hills

Many more gawking-at-lights opportunities are available, including Wild Lights at the Saint Louis Zoo through December 30, the Way of Lights at Our Lady of the Snows in Belleville, IL through December 31 or Celebration of Lights in O'Fallon, MO through December 30.

Missouri Botanical Gardens

One more light display that cannot go unmentioned is Garden Glow at Missouri Botanical Gardens through January 4. This is an awe-inspiring display that transforms the already beautiful garden grounds into a truly magical place.

Garden Glow at Missouri Botanical Gardens

In addition to Garden Glow MOBOT has a calendar full of winter holiday events. On December 22 there's a traditional Jewish holiday celebration, Chanukah: Festival of Lights. There will be dancing, music and a menorah-lighting ceremony.

Chanukah: Festival of Lights at MOBOT

For train and/or flower lovers, MOBOT hosts the Gardenland Express Train and Flower Show, with model trains traveling through a miniature holiday scene, through January 1. Also on MOBOT's calendar is the Holiday Wreath Display and Auction through January 4 and the Victorian Christmas through December 29.

Dance

Each year Saint Louis Ballet treats audiences of all ages to The Nutcracker at the Touhill Performing Arts Center at UMSL, and it is a beautiful production every time. This year you can relive (or start) this tradition with your family from December 18 through 23.

The Nutcracker at the Touhill

Another annual tradition is the St. Louis Irish Arts Holiday Concert. Musicians, dancers and singers from St. Louis Irish Arts put together a festive, traditional show that the whole family will love. December 21 at Sheldon Concert Hall.

St. Louis Irish Arts Holiday Concert

And More...

There really are so many things to do with your family this season in St. Louis. Here's a list of a few more:

Winter Getaway and Noon Year’s Eve Celebration at the Missouri History Museum - December 27 through 31

Home Alone in Concert with the St. Louis Symphony Orchestra at Powell Hall - December 20

Holiday Dreams: A Spectacular Holiday Cirque! at the Family Arena - December 22

Information courtesy of racstl.org, riverfronttimes.com, explorest.louis.com, stlsprout.com

Getting Ready for the Winter Concert in Upper Elementary, or The Art of the Student-Run Play

Over the past few days we've looked into the Children's Houses and the Lower Elementary as they've been preparing for the Winter Concert. The excitement is mounting as we are two days away from the big event! Today we'll round out our winter-concert-sneak-peekery with the Upper Elementary.

Each year, in the weeks before Winter Concert, our Upper Elementary transforms into a performance arts academy of sorts as the students write, direct, produce, design and manage an original musical play based on a historical event or period. Guides Rebecca Callander and Katie Nelson, along with UE Assistant Justin Shepard and PE Specialist Diana Barrios, offer guidance throughout the process with editing, musical instruction, help with procuring materials and much more, but make no mistake—the Upper Elementary Play comes from the creativity, intelligence, practice and hard work of the UE students.

Over the course of the fall semester, ideas for the play begin to percolate among the UE students as they are inspired to delve deeper into historical topics they're learning in the classroom and through their own independent research. The guides and assistants work with them to narrow down the choices—there are so many!—and come to a consensus.

Then the fun starts! Students sign up to be writers, directors, costumers, props masters, set designers, dancers and musicians, and auditions are held to cast the play. Most students take on multiple roles, and their days begin to fill with construction, crafting, sewing, painting, memorizing lines, learning dance steps, band practice and rehearsals.

photo credit: Katie Nelson

The best part of the UE play is that our students are given opportunities to showcase their individual talents and to explore new interests, while at the same time coming together in cooperation and collaboration. They work hard, push themselves toward a goal and have fun doing it.

This year's UE play will time-hop through history in a most excellent way (that's a hint!). We can't wait to see it on Saturday!

Cultivating Gratitude and Generosity in the Children's House

photo credit: Melinda Smith

This time of year many of us find ourselves struggling to keep a hold of gratitude and generosity; they slip so easily out of our daily lives when things get hectic. The holidays give us the opportunity to renew these virtues by actively practicing them with our families and friends. We voice what we're grateful for and remind our children to say their pleases and thank-yous. We send cards or letters, give and receive gifts and keep our people in our thoughts. We exercise the gratitude and generosity muscles with the ultimate goal that they stay with us always.

For our youngest children, the concepts—the abstract ideas—of gratitude and generosity are still out of reach because they are concrete, literal thinkers. So, how do we teach them? In the Villa di Maria Children's Houses, our guides lay the groundwork for gratitude and generosity through grace and courtesy.

It is not necessary for them to possess the ability to consider abstract concepts. The child begins at birth to become a citizen. They are working to become human beings of the community. It is our responsibility to offer them the best example of being good citizens of the world.

Reghan McAuley, P1 Children's House Guide

Guide Reghan McAuley from our P1 Children's House explains, "The young child, 0 – 6, is observing, absorbing and self-constructing continuously. This is their work in the first plane of development. The child simply absorbs all aspects of their environment without bias, discrimination or ability to filter. They absorb and take in how to be among others in a group through the amazing powers of the mind. The child learns This is how we do here. Therefore, it is essential that we, the adults in their lives, always model optimal grace-and-courtesies of the child’s culture. The child 100% absorbs these grace-and-courtesies. It is not necessary for them to possess the ability to consider abstract concepts. The child begins at birth to become a citizen. They are working to become human beings of the community. It is our responsibility to offer them the best example of being good citizens of the world."

Exercises in grace and courtesy are part of the Montessori practical life curriculum. These are lessons to help children become aware of the other people in their surroundings. They learn how to greet someone with a handshake and eye contact, how to ask for a turn with a material that's being used, what to say and do when they have accidentally (or otherwise) hurt a friend, and how to introduce themselves. These lessons give young children tools they need to interact respectfully with the people in their lives.

And since we want our children to not just exercise behaviors of grace and courtesy, but to learn how to live with these virtues in their lives, our Children's House guides and assistants also consistently model kind, gracious, courteous and respectful behaviors. In fact, all of the adults at VdM strive to treat all of the children with respect and kindness. Mind you, this is not a difficult thing to do—these children are interesting, funny, thoughtful, serious, kind, loud, quiet... they are amazing children on their way to becoming amazing grown-ups. We have genuine affection and respect for each of them.

photo credit: Melinda Smith

photo credit: Melinda Smith

By simply being kind and respectful to each other and our children—by practicing grace and courtesy ourselves—we are modeling what it means to be kind and respectful people. For the youngest child, the absorbed, learned behaviors might just start as imitation; the child says "thank you" because she hears us say it. But over time, the behaviors become a practice, a way of relating to people in her world.

Then, as children get older and begin to ask why, they begin to link the behaviors of grace and courtesy to the abstract concepts. They begin to reason out the significance of showing respect to the people in their lives. They learn empathy and understanding. Grace and courtesy, gratitude and generosity, become things they can feel and experience, a part of their social and emotional development as they move toward adulthood. The solid groundwork of grace and courtesy they've received in the Children's House strengthens this development, gives children a sort of muscle memory for kind and respectful behaviors, so they can concentrate on the hard work of internalizing the concepts.

photo credit: Shannon O'Connell

At Villa di Maria. we are fortunate to watch the evolution of grace and courtesy in our children as they move from the earliest years in the Children's House toward Elementary, from the first to the second plane of development. As they grow, they instinctively begin to take on the role of modeling kindness and respect for their younger classmates. It is a virtuous cycle and a beautiful thing to see.

Getting Ready for the Winter Concert in Lower Elementary

Last week we took a peek into the Children's House as they practiced their songs for the Winter Concert. We are less than a week away from the concert, and the excitement (and rehearsal schedule) is ramping up! 

The Lower Elementary children have also been hard at work on their part of the program. As a group they will sing three songs on the theme of friendship and cooperation: "You’ve Got a Friend in Me" by Randy Newman, "I’d Do Anything" adapted from the musical Oliver! and "Lean on Me" by Bill Withers.

Several Lower Elementary students have also chosen to do solo or small-group acts: songs, poems, stories and musical performances. Some of these works are originals, written by the children themselves, including (but certainly not limited too) songs "So Many Countries, States and Cities" and "Beyblade Infinity Burst;" stories "The Man and the Dog" and "The Leprechaun and the Rainbow," and a poem entitled "New York City Rhythm."

We cannot wait to see and hear the fruits of Lower Elementary's hard work at the Winter Concert this weekend!

The Fund for Villa di Maria

Throughout our 50+ years, Villa di Maria has relied on the continued support of our community to close the gap between our tuition income and our operating costs. The generosity of our families, staff and trustees has been astounding—it has allowed us to maintain and update our original buildings; to add a new, beautiful building to accommodate our growing population; to maintain and improve our outdoor spaces with a new pavilion, garden and playground; and to prepare for the next phase of construction. We have been able to enhance our core offerings by adding a reading specialist to the team and to enrich the Upper Elementary experience with additional faculty members. In short, we could not have become the school we are today without our community's continued financial support.

photo credit: Lauren Knight

As 2019 comes to an end, we kindly ask that you make as generous a contribution as you can to The Fund for Villa di Maria. This fundraising effort is vital to our school and our community. Without your gifts, we would not be able to continue to take on the challenge of providing a world-class, authentic Montessori experience while keeping tuition relatively low. Our mission is to meet the academic and social needs of your children in the very best environments with the very best people. Your contributions to the Fund are unrestricted and directly support our day-to-day operations so that we can continue to outfit our classrooms with purposeful, quality, enriching materials and provide ongoing professional development opportunities for the entire VdM team.

Villa di Maria wouldn’t be where it is today, or where it will be tomorrow, without you. Thank you for all that you do to make the children’s VdM experience exceptional. We are truly grateful for you.

Singing in the Children's House - Getting Ready For the Winter Concert!

Our Winter Concert is coming in two weeks and the Children's House children are hard at work practicing. Each year the concert opens with our youngest students (almost 90 of them!), dressed in their most special holiday outfits and fired up with excitement, singing on stage. Each year the Winter Concert audience is delighted by their bow ties, sequined skirts, sparkly eyes and beautiful voices.

In the weeks before the magical event, the children and guides practice every day to memorize the lyrics, follow the tune and sing in unison.

This year the program will open with our Extended Day children singing "All I Want For Christmas is You" by Mariah Carey, complete with the high notes! Then the Children's House Vocal Company (not an official name... yet ?) will sing "Jingle Bells," "Let it Snow!," "Hanukkah," "Step Into Christmas" by Elton John, "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" and "The Happy New Year Song."

There will be dancing, tambourine accompaniment, lots and lots of jazz hands and likely a shenanigan or two. We cannot wait for this year's Winter Concert—in the meantime, enjoy these photos of some of our favorite young people during concert practice!